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MATT BOMER ( 79 • IN TIME ) [21 Jun 2018|02:24pm]

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MATT BOMER
79 • IN TIME
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JOE FLANIGAN ( 48 • TRU CALLING • 1.03 “MY BROTHER’S KEEPER” ) [21 Jun 2018|02:10pm]

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JOE FLANIGAN
48 • TRU CALLING • 1.03 “MY BROTHER’S KEEPER”
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JESSICA MILLER ( 12 • PHOTOSHOOTS ) [21 Jun 2018|01:58pm]

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JESSICA MILLER
12 • PHOTOSHOOTS
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SEBASTIAN STAN ( 29 • RACHEL GETTING MARRIED ) [21 Jun 2018|01:25pm]

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SEBASTIAN STAN
29 • RACHEL GETTING MARRIED
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SET UPDATE: LOGAN LERMAN ( 8 • PRESS CONFERENCES ) [21 Jun 2018|01:16pm]

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LOGAN LERMAN
8 • PRESS CONFERENCES
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ARCTIC WOLVES ( 17 • MISCELLANEOUS ) [21 Jun 2018|01:06pm]

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ARCTIC WOLVES
17 • MISCELLANEOUS
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[19 Jun 2018|09:20pm]

acejillian
Some of you know about this because you're already on my Facebook feed, but I just discovered that you can make a URL link to put anywhere SO IMA PUT THIS EVERYWHERE!

JILLIAN'S BIRTHDAY FUNDRAISER FOR KIDS IN NEED OF DEFENSE (KIND)

This organization works to provide children seeking asylum with legal representation, and as many of you no doubt have seen, we have a lot of children having their rights and their humanity trampled on by our morally bankrupt government. If you're throwing your hands up and wondering what you can do to help these people yearning to be free, consider pledging a few dollars and/or sharing the fundraiser on your feed. You don't need to friend me to do it :)

THANK YOU!
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CLEA DUVALL ( 79 • ARGO ) [19 Jun 2018|07:45pm]

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CLEA DUVALL
79 • ARGO
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SET UPDATE: CHANDLER RIGGS ( 80 • MISCELLANEOUS ) [18 Jun 2018|07:33pm]

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CHANDLER RIGGS
80 • MISCELLANEOUS
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[18 Jun 2018|07:22am]

hangthestars
So it's been a year+ since I've been in communities on IJ and I'm not coming back. Pretty much ever. I realized after a few months to a year after leaving the server for good how miserable I was when I was playing on here. I met some amazing people who are some of my best real life friends now, but I also met people who abused my trust, gaslit me, and broke my heart.

This environment is not a good one. If that upsets people then that's unfortunate; for me, it was true. Especially now, games are a breeding ground for emotional manipulation. People take stupid shit too seriously, or they expect way too much out of other people when it comes to a hobby, and honestly sometimes these places are a little culty. You're going to meet manipulative people basically everywhere, and that's never a good thing, but too many of y'all use RP to work out whatever emotional damage you've got and you turn it into a weapon.

I had been treading water here since The 100 closed. In hindsight, that's the game that broke me. I'm still hurting. I'm still upset at the way I was treated, the way my friends were treated. Unfortunately, the main problem that it had -- that people who were actively emotionally abusing other players were favored -- is a problem that a lot of games have now, and maybe have always had, where rules against bad behavior were never enforced because the first "offense" was considered pointing out a problem rather than causing the original issue.

I can't be in that environment. I've contributed to that environment, and it disgusts me. I've let emotional abuse run rampant in my own communities because I bought into the abuser's victim-y bullshit, because they used the right language to paint their victims as being ableist or somehow prejudiced against them so they could weasel out of consequences for their own shitty behavior. I've been the victim of it, and I've had my better nature taken advantage of because I was willing to forgive things that I shouldn't have. This community is so small, and so rarely outright rejects shitty people, that it is almost impossible for me to go into a game or start a game without either tripping over someone I know is bad news or meeting someone new who's just as awful.

My brain is going through the same process of letting go of IJ that it did when I broke up with an abusive ex or stopped speaking to abusive friends. It's been a long process, and I'm still traumatized by some of the shit you people on this hellsite have done to me. It's harder for me to trust people in real life because of it.



Comments are disabled on this because no. If you have my email address and you have beef with what I've said here, you can contact me about it if you really want to get into it. Which you don't. I promise you don't.

saveatlantis wants! [11 Jun 2018|05:17pm]

galleon
SA wants )
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fork you, photoshop. [11 Jun 2018|01:34am]

bottledskies
HIATUS POST.

i have so, so many icons i have to organize and post on here, but until i find suitable hosting because of photoshop's devilry, it's a no go for the time being.

in the meantime i may go back and reorganize that layouts of some of my previous icon tables/condense posts, but...bear with me while i figure out a plan B for where to put all these silly little icons. if ou want zips of anything i have in the meantime, feel free to check this post of icon sets i've yet to post and i'd be happy to just give you what i have! ♥
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ANDREW LEE POTTS ( 17 • COLD BLOOD • 2.02 “DEAD AND BURIED” ) [09 Jun 2018|10:14pm]

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ANDREW LEE POTTS
17 • COLD BLOOD • 2.02 “DEAD AND BURIED”
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ROSELYN SÁNCHEZ ( 22 • PHOTOSHOOTS ) [09 Jun 2018|09:53pm]

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ROSELYN SÁNCHEZ
22 • PHOTOSHOOTS
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FIONA APPLE ( 27 • PHOTOSHOOTS ) [09 Jun 2018|09:35pm]

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FIONA APPLE
27 • PHOTOSHOOTS
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LILY ALLEN ( 30 • PHOTOSHOOTS ) [09 Jun 2018|09:20pm]

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LILY ALLEN
30 • PHOTOSHOOTS
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DILEEP RAO ( 24 • AVATAR ) [09 Jun 2018|09:04pm]

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DILEEP RAO
24 • AVATAR
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MARISA TOMEI ( 34 • PHOTOSHOOTS ) [09 Jun 2018|08:48pm]

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MARISA TOMEI
34 • PHOTOSHOOTS
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STUART TOWNSEND ( 22 • PHOTOSHOOTS ) [09 Jun 2018|06:58pm]

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STUART TOWNSEND
22 • PHOTOSHOOTS
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Reno [08 Jun 2018|11:45pm]

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Reno Muse List )
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